How Do I Handle the Cruelty of Other People?
"Sometimes I feel like I'm carrying the pain of the world in my heart. How can people be so mean to one another and what can I do to lighten my load?" ~ Courtney Dear Courtney, For those gifted with high empathy levels, the world can seem like a barrage of emotions, constantly crashing down like meteors onto the moon. But unlike the moon, we have a way of coping with the emotional-energy missiles we encounter. In our default state, humans are essentially emotional mirrors; we take on, and reflect back, whatever is sent our way. But we are not inanimate…
How Can I Move On?
"Recently I lost my wife to cancer. It's been a month and I still cry myself to sleep every night. I don't know how to get over this loss and get back to living. I don't know that I can go on without him. Help!" ~ William, Green Bay, WI Dear William, Your wife would certainly want to be valued, but she would also want you to have a warm, loving, joyous life. Be kind to yourself. Focus on tiny little improvements every day. Every time you start to feel sad, focus on one of your happiest times with your…
How to Go About Challenging Yourself
A challenge isn't easy, it isn't meant to be. That is why terms like 'get outside your comfort zone’ and ‘break out of the box we put ourselves in' are bandied about a lot. We know how good we feel when we reach a goal and the feeling of accomplishment that comes with it. Often the more difficult the challenge or even the more attempts we have made at it, the greater the sense of achievement during, and afterwards, especially when we have tried our best. Challenging yourself can be extremely motivational. Below are some tips to help you challenge…
How Do You Let Go of the Past?
I watched with great interest the various shows commemorating of the 50th Anniversary of the assassination of our 35th President, John Fitzgerald Kennedy. Having only been 2 years old at the time, I'm a little fascinated that it feels like it means so much to me. I'm sure it has to do with the impact on everyone around me at that time, that as an energetic being, I absorbed, without even knowing what it was I was feeling. I know my family was devastated. My brother and I stayed with my Grandmother while my parents made the pilgrimage to see Kennedy lying in state, which Mom later captured…
Can I Make More Time?
"I feel like I'm being pulled in 10 directions at the same time, every day. How can I find the time to keep everyone happy, including me?" ~ Denise, St. Albans, UK Dear Denise, My biggest accomplishment is that I've learned to S-T-R--E--T--C-H out time! :) But seriously... I've mastered a trick that gets me a few extra hours every day (and you can learn it too). It's the only way I can juggle my professional duties as a surgeon, family responsibilities, managing a non-profit foundation, writing content for my websites, and more. What's the trick? FOCUS. When I'm operating, my…
Is Your Child Intuitive or Spiritually Gifted? 10 Ways to Tell
Seems like you can't get through a day without seeing a movie or TV show about a paranormal or psychic child. But the truth is, most kids today have intuitive and spiritual gifts—it just doesn’t look anything like what we’re shown in mainstream media. Intuitive and spiritual giftedness is whole new kind of intelligence that lets children understand and process things differently—and it’s a common phenomenon in these newest generations of kids. For parents, it can seem confusing. But once you understand what to look for, intuitive and spiritual gifts aren’t hard to spot. While these abilities may “cluster” differently in individual…
Bouncing with Style: Live Smarter
I always thought I was pretty smart. But then I took a look at what I was doing to my body, my mind and my soul on a daily basis. We are constantly inundated with messages from television, magazines, the Internet and family as well as so-called well-meaning friends. Recently, I started to take an internal temperature check on my gut. When I stopped “thinking”, and started thinking about what I was “feeling”, I noticed that some things that sounded right did not feel right. Of course, I had to slow down and limit my sensory input for this to…
How Can I Align Myself With What I Want?
"I would love to receive some guidance around getting more into vibrational alignment with what it is I want. I know what I want, but I feel there are so many distractions and I am not always doing everything to help me more toward what I want... slipping back into old habits, too much mind activity-mind clutter, and overall feeling a bit overwhelmed at times. I have tried to slow a bit and take some things off my plate so I don't have this mental list of to do's and my daily race against the clock to get things done.…
Become Your Inner Grinch this Holiday Season
After one too many Black Friday Sales, the Grinch ended up with his heart two sizes too small. Luckily, you don’t have to. Because even Mr. Grinch… the mean one, the one as cuddly as a cactus… was able to change. Even Grinch, during the holidays, was able to open his heart—so big that it busted right out of his chest. The secret? He started giving. He started practicing seva, or service to others—and in the end, he returned the tree, the toys, why… even the roast beast to all the lovely Who’s of Whoville, as they sang their Who…
How Can I Have More Energy?
"I am a procrastinator, sleepy, always tired, and I am 20. How can I end this permanently?" ~ Tina, Baltimore Dear Tina, I think we can all identify with being sleepy and tired, and with procrastination. Kudos to you in advance for reaching out for help. Being sleepy and tired can be symptoms of an underlying problem, so have your health checked with a professional. That being said, I've found the following things to be of great help to creating unlimited energy. Get 7-8 hours of restful sleep each night. Insomniacs, use lavender oil! Start and end the day with gratitude,…
Bouncing with Style: Play Your Position
First of all, let me clarify that after playing grade-school and high school soccer, it was shocking to me as to how little I retained about the sport other than keep your feet behind the line when throwing in the ball. But as in all things, God has a reason for what we need to know. I have become an avid sport’s mom for a couple of reasons. I like to watch the kids grow and learn. I like the competition and formation of character through team sports. And sports gives me a chance to see my kids when they…
How Can I Handle My Kids?
"My kids are driving me crazy. How can I get them to do what I want them to do, when I need them to do it?" Your kids are seeking appreciation, validation, and security, just as we all do. You get whatever you are prepared to give so get yourself into a collaborative frame of mind. 1. Identify what needs to be done. What are the responsibilities or tasks that your child must complete? Help your child understand the long term value of this project. For example, they are developing problem-solving skills, collaboration skills, research skills, computer skills, and identifying…
From Living Hell to Living Well
We’ve all been there – a place that feels like hell on earth. And we ask ourselves the same question over and over: “Why me?” Have you ever stopped to think about this continuous loop and how amazingly coincidental that it continues to happen over and over again? If your thoughts and beliefs are permanently fixed on the “why”, you will never have an opportunity to investigate the “what” for your life. Life obstacles and traumas are inevitable and they happen for a reason. The sooner we learn the lesson, embrace change, and focus our thoughts on what we DO…
How Do I Live From the Heart?
"How can I move from being in my head to coming from my heart?" ~ Tina, Glenside What a fantastic question! And I’ve found that the answer to it has let me to discover the gateway to transformation, healing, and tremendous breakthroughs. The best way I’ve found to move from my head into my heart is to use meditation. When we are “in our heads” it’s almost like our thoughts are thinking us, rather than us choosing which thoughts to think! We have an extraordinary amount of ideas, things to do, worries, and wonders all rolling around in our minds…
Noticing the Particulate…
At some point you stood there, in the first living room you ever knew, when you were new to the world, and life seemed simple. And you saw it all with new eyes: the old sofa. The worn table. Toys scattered on the floor A big picture window to let the light in. And at some point, you were playing in this room: maybe it was Saturday and your father napped on the sofa. Maybe it was a weekday, and your mother was in the kitchen. Maybe you were happy; maybe you were sad; maybe you’d been jumping on that…
Is This Friendship Over?
"I have a question I'd really like to know your thoughts on. I have a friend named Daniel. We recently had a falling out. I was tired of him holding back and I felt like I was always the one giving and getting nothing in return. Some harsh things were said by both of us. I'd really like to know how he is feeling. Can this be repaired? I already reached out, but he's not responding. I wonder if he even cares to have me as a friend. Thanks so much." ~ Pam Hi Pam, The relationship is over, and…
How Do I Find My Mission?
"How do I find my mission in life?" ~ Blanca, Denver Your mission will find you, rather than you searching for your mission. In my case, my mission after graduating from college was to have and raise my children while working. It was my top priority during that time, and I was happy taking care of them. But as they got older, I knew there was something else for me. I took a family trip to Greece, which changed my life significantly and when I arrived home, I connected to a new desire—to be a writer. I’ve always love to…
Home for the Holidays
The holiday season has become more meaningful than ever. Since we now live in a global community, families can only gather during special occasions. Although many of us are fortunate to have a family to spend the holidays with, many others are less fortunate. Some are lucky to experience the holiday spirit thanks to the generosity of friends. Still, others have managed to find solace from within their hearts since they have no other place to go. Regardless, the kitchen remains the most important room in the house in the coming weeks. Whether a modern-day designer kitchen, an efficiency kitchen…