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What You See is What Will Be

There was a time back, long ago, when knowing each other’s deficits was important. In fact it was critical to our survival. But today we live in a time when our environment can literally make up for any of our shortcomings. We have evolved past the need to link deficiencies with survival. Unfortunately, our instincts have not. Despite overwhelming evidence—the blind man with incredible hearing, the deaf woman highly attuned to body language, the dyslexic student with powerful memorization—society is too accustomed to seeing the world in terms of deficits and exceptions. And so are we. In trying to improve,…

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24 Guidelines for Your Best Life

Each day is a gift so begin and end each day with gratitude. Celebrate the good and more of it will flow to you. Adversity is a part of life. Know that you are not your problems. Instead of getting wrapped up in doom and gloom, change your focus to the life you want to have, not the problems you think are before you, realizing that what's happening around you isn't who you are. Love what is. Our stress often comes from our perception that something is good or bad- not from the circumstance itself. Instead of getting frustrated over…

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My Gratitude List

Every morning I sit outside on my high-floor terrace in South Florida, sip my coffee, and read an uplifting pamphlet or two. Then I write out my day’s schedule. Too often, despite the uplifting material, I start worrying about this client or that deadline or the seemingly endless list of tasks on the schedule. And my quiet time erodes into anxiety. The activity that’s supposed to help me ease into the day with a positive outlook has the opposite effect. Instead of returning to my home office refreshed and ready to work, I’m drained and irritable. As I kept noticing…

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5 Ways to Make Every Day Count

My Dad always told me to live each day as if it were my last, and as a child the specter of one's last day always seemed like a remote possibility. But with maturity and experience comes the realization that it's not just about one's last day, but also the lost chances and opportunities in life that should also be seen through a lens of hope and caring. So as you go about your daily chores it's always best to do all you can to make every day count. Be positive and upbeat: We all can find the glass that…

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Is Worry Holding You Down?

My husband and I love the Baja Peninsula, visiting it frequently over the past few years. On September 14, 2014, Hurricane Odile hit. With no phone or internet service it was days or, in one case, a week before we heard from our friends who live there. Without communication, I became obsessed with any reports I could get from the area. I looked at photos of damage. I worried about the lack of food, water, and electricity. I concerned over my friends safety as desperation looting began. That week I was also hit with a massive cold. You see, worry…

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17 Top Success Tips

I have trouble squeezing anything I write into 500 words or less because first, I talk too much... and second, I don’t know how to count. But I’ll try my best by giving you my top 17 success tips which took me over 30 years to discover. 1. Write down your goals and look at them every day. Follow these 4 steps: Step 1: Write down goals Step 2: Look at goals Step 3: Take action Step 4: Repeat 2. Have a support system in place for when you feel down or depressed. You'll always have "those days" so a…

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Create Your World

As we look out across the landscape of our behavior in these times of great change, we see that many people are way too quick to talk about themselves and others in the negative. We tend, oh-so-easily, to bring up our latest drama, or our friend's health imbalance, or the challenges of the world at large. And yet, what many of us are learning (and thus integrating into our daily lives) is that it serves us and our fellow travelers so much better when we see good, say good and do good - and there's a good reason for this.…

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How to Conquer the Odds

Have you seen people who are anxious, upset, and always worried, who just can’t seem to think positive? That is because they are lost in their misery. When you look at the dictionary, positive attitude has a few different meanings, but I focus on these: optimism, confidence, and focusing on the good things rather than the bad. People often ask me, “How have you survived all the things you have gone through, Habibo? How can you be the sole care provider for three children, work two jobs, attend school full-time, and most importantly give back to the community?” I tell…

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Can I Choose to Stay Positive?

"I have been having a difficult time lately with staying positive. It seems as if there is so much going on that it's difficult to try and stay positive. I used to be happier... How can I get through the day being positive?" ~ Julie Hi Julie, Thanks for your question, I get this one a lot and I want you to know that even “Mr. Positive” isn't able to “Stay Positive” all the time! Even though your life is very busy here are three things you can do in ten minutes or less to immediately to shift your attitude when you are not feeling…

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Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy

We are our own worst enemy when we indulge in negative thinking. A major problem in this regard is that, for the most part, we're so used to our negative thinking that we aren't even aware when we're doing it. Consequently, we need to listen closely to the content of our thoughts. When we recognize negative, catastrophic thoughts about our future, we need to stop them and counter them with alternative messages that are positive and optimistic, based on truth, not fear. To be sure: Just because things haven't worked out in the past doesn't mean they never will. Just…

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10 Questions for Finding Your Balance

Have you ever asked yourself probing questions that get to the root of your inner self? Have you done the inner questioning to help you uncover your purpose—what your life is calling you to do? We must ask ourselves powerful questions to get to the core of our being. To get you started, ask yourself, "If time and money were not an issue, what would I be doing?" I like this question because it is as if we won the lottery. If you won a million bucks, what would you do? A question like this can begin to unveil some…

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How Can I Stay Positive?

"I'm dealing with difficulty in my life right now that is affecting my health. I'm normally such a positive person. This situation is really taking its toll on me and I just don't know how to stay positive anymore. What can I do?" ~ Sally, Green Bay, Wisconsin Dear Sally, The best thing for staying positive is to remember that what we focus on expands, so here are a few great tips. Music is amazing for raising our vibration, our mood even when we don’t feel well or positive. Force a smile on your face, it will immediately change the physiology…

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How Can I Help My Struggling Friend?

"I have a friend struggling with grief, health and emotional issues. She is extremely negative, sarcastic and angry in all aspects of her life. She has no other friends and thanks me for being a positive example in her life. Very slowly, she is trying to change to more positive thoughts and actions. Problem is I am getting drained being her only friend in life. Her complaining is constant and she needs me so much of the time..I have a husband and other friends and I love to journal and read. I don't seem to have time for much anything…

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Why You Were Born to Win!

You were born to win. Once you come to terms with that, the life you were meant to live will unfold before your eyes. You can achieve what you believe and the first place to start is conceiving it in your mind. Your thought pattern gives birth to the life you were destined to live. You get to decide how you are going to live out the rest of your life. You have been predestined for greatness and now is the time to go to the next level, leaving a legacy for those who come behind you. Every new thought…

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Does Negative News Affect Me?

"I am so upset with all the news and violence today. I wonder if watching it created more of it? If we all watch the news and the sadness, are we in fact creating it? Is that why so many young people are killing others? They are saddened and feel no one cares and see the news of others killing themselves, so they think they should? Is media creating more sadness and violence...? Again, should I turn off my TV and not watch it, or is that a coward's way out? I fear that all the people watching the tragedies…

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New Year’s Eve, Drop All That No Longer Serves Behind You

Before midnight on New Year's Eve, take some time to reflect upon on your past. This past year and as far as you can remember. Refrain from going into story about the past or reliving old memories,  just reflect. And everything that you don’t want to drag into 2014 with you, drop it. Drop it like the ball that falls in Times Square each year. Drop it like a hot potato and let it go once and for all. Leave the past in the past so that you can move into 2014 with clear unencumbered focus. Between Christmas and New Year's Eve…

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How Can I Let Go of Negative Thoughts?

"I am sad about my marriage of 40 years being over. I have tried so hard to save it but we are just on different vibrations. What do I do with my negative thoughts when they come up??" ~ Kathy Rose, Los Angeles, CA Firstly, Kathy, I would ask that you be loving and kind to yourself. Coming to this realization is not an easy one and I am sure it is not a decision you have taken lightly. Forgiveness of yourself and of your spouse is helpful. Knowing that you have tried and you are both taking the best…

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How to Go About Challenging Yourself

A challenge isn't easy, it isn't meant to be. That is why terms like 'get outside your comfort zone’ and ‘break out of the box we put ourselves in' are bandied about a lot. We know how good we feel when we reach a goal and the feeling of accomplishment that comes with it. Often the more difficult the challenge or even the more attempts we have made at it, the greater the sense of achievement during, and afterwards, especially when we have tried our best. Challenging yourself can be extremely motivational. Below are some tips to help you challenge…

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