Tag: Relationships

Stop Waiting for It to Get Easier

I learned 13 years ago how precious life is, and how short it can be, when I was diagnosed with melanoma. Having cancer was a defining moment in my life and I realized that that no matter what goals and dreams I had – the time to make them happen was now.  I still run my life and operate my various businesses with that same sense of urgency. As a coach to entrepreneurs and small business owners, I hear about ideas for growth a lot. And whether the idea is based on a new product, a new or improved service,…

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9 Principles for Great Relationships

Love is a choice, attraction isn't. You don't have any more control over who you fall for than you do over gravity. But when the chemical craziness of that first attraction wears off (after days or months or years), you wake up every day, look at the person in your bed and choose to be in love with them. You can choose not to love someone too. Don't be a love victim. Too many folks stay with men and women who are awful for them because they "love" them or because they're afraid of "failing". You have to love yourself…

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Your Relationships, Your Legacy

What matters most in life is relationships. They define the quality of your time on Earth and determine the legacy you leave behind. Reaching out to people and letting them into your heart offers you - and them - the warmth and comfort that only deeply caring friends can bestow. So why aren't more of us able to establish these critical connections? The answer's simple - fear. And getting past it is the first hurdle to building lasting, meaningful relationships. Facing your fear isn't easy, but in relationship building, like bodybuilding, it's no pain, no gain. Many of us fear…

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9 Wisdom Keys for Creating Possibility

Growing up, I always asked why people do the things they do, to learn their mindset. Your mindset creates your moods, attitudes and habits. I developed the following nine wisdom keys for feeding your mindset with possibilities & positiveness. 1. If you reveal who you truly are, you will attract the people who will most complement your life. Life is short and unpredictable. Don't waste another minute on the people, places and things that don’t make you happy. You are the one thing you cannot run away from, no matter what your passion, vision or inner talent is. Don’t worry about what…

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7 Paths to the Life of Your Dreams

Be your authentic self. Be true to yourself always. Don't worry what other people will think. March to the beat of your own unique drum and do the things that make you happy. Magical things happen when you're following your passions, the things that you really love in life. Surround yourself with people who inspire you. Always seek to be around people who amplify your energy. After interacting with them, you'll feel uplifted and excited about life. Look for this reaction when considering friends, coaches, business partners, mentors, clients, Mastermind Group members, etc. Practice blissful thinking. Dream the biggest dream…

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Making Art Out Of Life

Relationships have the brilliant power to inspire. To be inspired is to breathe in and out with the joyous certainty that you are loved for who you are. My favorite poet, Pablo Neruda, wrote metaphorically about the inspired individual in one section of his epic poem entitled "The Great Ocean": The wave that you let loose, Arc of identity, exploded feather When it was unleashed, it was only foam, And without being wasted came back to be born. All of your strength returns to its beginning....... What was expelled by the action of your abundance, All that was left of…

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- Who is to say what you should do or say? The person giving you advice is probably searching for his own; he is probably more perplexed and spellbound than you.
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- The people who seem to keep you in restraints have no real hold over you. Once you believe in yourself, not allowing others to influence your decisions, you will notice that the cuffs that once bound you are no longer visible and you are free.
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- The single greatest ‘people skill’ is a highly developed and authentic interest in the *other* person.
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- Great relationships begin within.
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The Art of Authenticity

The words I would like to leave to humanity are walk in your own authenticity. While this may sound elementary, as I have walked through several phases of my journey, I realized I lost valuable time not being completely authentic. I am aware the growing process had a vast impact upon the way I viewed and perceived myself. However, decisions I made based on the environment, and peers caused me to present a facade which was not my character nor my stature. Authenticity to me is the ability to reach within myself and expose even to myself, my triumphs and…

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Finding Gold

In my many years working as a counselor and pursuing truth, there are two things I know for sure. First, we all need each other like the ocean needs the sand, and second, learning to be authentic is a task that requires truth, courage and commitment. So often in life people try to pursue a quick fix to their problems, and the truth is that any real problem worthy of being solved, does not and will not ever happen overnight. Finding gold takes time. Finding gold takes patience. Finding gold takes others. The gold I'm referring to is not the…

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It Never Hurts To Say “I Love You”

It never hurts to say "I love you". We know this. But did we also know that we can help each other grow by learning to say "thank you" as well? When we take a little time out for gratitude, we can accomplish miracles in our lives. We can connect ourselves to the inherent genius of our human heritage. We usher in new life, new hope, each time we thank someone else for their contributions to thought and to excellence; each time we let someone else's achievements shine inside of our own dear accomplishment sphere. Whenever we acknowledge greatness in…

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Creating a True Connection with Other Human Beings

I would share these four "secrets" for living: Being content and fulfilled in life does not really come from the success of your results. True contentment comes from being completely present and conscious of the experience of what you are doing in any given moment. Every relationship we encounter in our lives uncovers a part of us we need to see in order for us to become more aware of who we really are. BEING in your field of now means showing gratitude for life as it is, whatever it is and as it is. Do not mind whatever happens!…

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#1 Thing in Life? Family

For me, there's more to life than money. For me, it's all about people and relationships and in particular it's about the relationships we have within our own families - with our kids, our partners, and our own parents. Family life is the most important aspect of our true well-being - and so is the really important job of bringing up happy, confident, well-balanced adults - today's children - but tomorrow's future. For all children and for most adults, family life is the most important thing in life. It gives meaning to our lives - as it's a place of…

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- When you’re going about your life (and your relationship) as if it’s your idea, as if you’re doing exactly what you want, your life and your relationship are heavenly indeed.
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How to be the Soul of Your Relationships

Our soul work starts with the ones we love, the ones who know our deepest secrets and our worst fears. These close relationships are the primary stepping-stones to learning how to love unconditionally. But bringing love and compassion to one another in these dark times is more easily said than done. So often our insecurities, disappointments, or expectations - stemming from our belief that the other person is responsible for our happiness - can get in the way. No wonder we want to run from or push away the relationships that most strongly reflect our darkness. It's our erroneous belief…

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- Every interaction in life works like a dance between partners. Learn to make every dance amazing and you can make your relationships amazing too.
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Cherish Your Relationships

Cherish your relationships. When we think of the word "relationship" we often think of our closest, intimate connections with others such as spouse, partner, parent, child, family members and even pets. Yes, I believe we need to deeply adore and cherish those relationships. When is the last time that you told them that you loved and appreciated them? Do you know their language of love, and how they personally prefer to be adored? Some people like physical touch, gifts, quality time, acts of service or words of appreciation. Take the time to learn your loved ones' preferred way to be…

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Love Forgive Listen Trust

After another loud, red-faced argument with my husband, I retreated to my corner to mentally reassert my rightness and curse under my breath. Our angry words hung in the air like trapped dust. We’d had too many of these arguments lately, and I hated how I felt. Like a shrew, the kind of woman who makes a scene in public and you watch, shaking your head and thinking, How could she do that? I hated too the inevitable aftermath: hours, days, of silence, polite avoiding of each other in the hallway, sleeping separately, and the only words spoken questions about food…

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Why Are You Reluctant to Stop Doing It All?

When the behaviors of a Type A are out of control, we can take responsibility for situations and outcomes, for the feelings and experience or others, and for absolutely everything around us. We think everything is our responsibility, and thus, within our control to affect. We fear if we don’t take care of everything needing to get done, there will be horrible consequences. The stress coming from being overtaken by our Type-A tendencies, eventually takes a toll on our mood, mental clarity, relationships, work satisfaction, and our health. The goal of this book is to help reduce these negative side effects of…

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